Offbeat Resilience: Rebounding From Life's Shitty Set-Backs #Editorial#books#editing#editorial strategy#starred May 21 2018 | Ariel arielmstallings Possible working title could have been Offbeat Resilience: Making Art From Grief Puke When Life Turns Upside Down. HA! A couple months back, I mentioned I was working away on trying to sell my second book, which had the working title of ONWARD. The first draft of the book was completed, and I spent last year talking to a series of literary agents and publishers who all seemed to have the same feedback: you can't sell this particular book, in this particular format. What was the problem with ONWARD? "You know what doesn't sell these days?" an editor told me. "Memoirs, or divorce books, or books about grief." H'okay then! Related Post State of the Empire, 2018 Oh hello there, friends. It's been a while. January 2018 marked the 11th anniversary of the Offbeat Empire, and -- first, ok let's just acknowledge... Read more A literary agent told me, "Ten years ago, all of these books were NYT bestsellers, but these days I know it would be nearly impossible trying to get them placed with a top publisher. The truth is that publishers aren't currently buying recovery books unless the author is a celebrity. I was able to finally place a divorce/grief memoir a couple years back with a tiny press after about 30 rejections." I had a couple guinea pig readers who read ONWARD and reported that the material was a weird punch in the gut, and that it was hard, while going through their own experiences of grief, to read my extremely graphic descriptions of my own. I also got the repeated feedback that what publishers wanted from me was a book like Offbeat Bride: a memoir/service hybrid that was a proactive, personal approach about how I got through a difficult process, offered up as cheerleading for those going through their own difficult processes. If I want to sell this book (and I do want to sell this book), the format needs to be a mix of memoir and material that's more service oriented, prescriptive, how-to, and self help-ish. In other words: most people don't want to read about me puking all over myself in grief. Or maybe you want to read about it for a little bit because you relate… but then you want to know how to wipe up the grief-puke and make some art out of it or maybe build a puke altar or do some weird puke dancing to help you move past the puking, you know? Related Post Pros Before Bros: my self-funded publishing / art experiment WTF is Pros Before Bros? A self-publishing experiment. A proof of concept. An ode to therapeutic sex work. A self-directed MFA project. An exercise in... Read more "Hmm," I thought to myself. "I mean, this makes sense I guess. I've already written the memoir half the book… but ug. I don't know that I have the emotional stamina to write the service half. If only I knew a writer or editor who was well-versed in the Offbeat voice and this kind of material who I could hire to co-write the other of half of the book…" Lightning strike: DUH, over the last 12 years, I've employed an amazing crew of writers and editors, and I could hire one of them to help me whip this shit into shape. I reached out to Caroline, who spent years as my copyeditor, who's now got their PhD and is living in France and will maybe they'd want to help… and voila! Offbeat Resilience: the reworking So now here we are: Caroline is balls deep in my draft of ONWARD, reworking it into a hopefully more marketable book we're currently calling Offbeat Resilience: Rebounding From Life's Shitty Set-Backs. Caroline has spent the last month rejiggering the content from a sequential memoir (it had four parts, each dedicated to a season of my first year of divorce recovery: The Fall, The Winter, The Springing, The Summer) into a more topical book (still with four parts: Mind, Body, Spirit, Integration). They're hacking up what I've written, and massaging each part into the topic buckets, and then sandwiching my memoir barfing between slices of service bread: first giving my narrative some context, and then tying it back to more actionable, service material to help readers actually grieve forward. My draft of ONWARD was about 80,000 words and full of grief puking, queer cheerleaders, sound healing, burlesque dancers, weed smoking, reiki, opera singers, loss training, talk therapy, gunslingers, dopamine hacking, and lightning shooting out of my hands. Some of that stuff will still be in Offbeat Resilience, but lots of it is getting cut because I mean, how relevant is it really that part of my healing process involved talking about gonorrhea pee on a playground with some new mom friends? Ultimately, Caroline's probably going to cut about half of what I wrote in the first draft — and that's great. But what about those 40,000 words getting ditched? As Caroline is hacking up my material, they've been handing me back some chunks of text that they thinks have value either as ancillary book content (I probably have enough weird, dirty, woowoo shit for a side e-book called Offbeat Resilience: The Hidden Chapters), or possibly as stand-alone posts separate from the book. …Because while gonorrhea pee maybe isn't super relevant for this book, maybe it's a decent slice-of-life post for Offbeat Home & Life that can start an interesting conversation about the awkward ways those of us with kids try to make mom-friends? Who knows! We'll toss the post up on Offbeat Home & Life and see. Or as I said recently on Offbeat Bride's Insta stories (which is where all the best behind the scenes stuff happens these days)… UPDATE SEPTEMBER 2018 I'm talking a lot about this project on my Instagram, in part because it was starting to get ridiculous that I was talking about heavy shit like grief and spirituality and self-improvement on Offbeat Bride's Insta Stories. (Offbeat Bride followers are just tryna find some wedding planning advice, and instead they get some middle aged lady rambling about her dead dog, and her daily movement practice, and random fart jokes? OY! Branding mis-fire!) View this post on Instagram Transcript: Oh hi, good morning. My name's Ariel. Welcome to Offbeat Resilience. So, most of you are probably familiar with my work through #offbeatbride, which was my first book, that came out in 2007, which then became a website, bla bla. I worked on it for a decade then in 2015, HI SHITSHOW! First an ovary exploded ('cuz that's a thing that can happen), then I turned 40 (which is a reality check), then my partnership of 18 years very abruptly ended. So! [fart sound] There went that life. And I have spent the last three years putting shit back together. And because I'm a nerd, that's meant reading — endless reading. And endless doing. And endless growth… just *A LOT*. This project is hopefully a book, but also just sharing the process of putting things back together. I don't have any answers, but if you want to stumble along with me, by all means… c'mon in. #shitshowafterparty A post shared by Ariel Meadow Stallings (@arielmstallings) on Sep 13, 2018 at 8:43am PDT I'm also going to be posting weekly Offbeat Resilience-relevant content on Offbeat Home this fall. You can read those posts here: offbeathome.com/tag/offbeat-resilience. As for the book itself, I'm in conversations with the folks at Seal Press about it, and my co-writer Caroline and I talk weekly as we work through the development and writing of the book. At this point, I'm betting on a 2020 publication, either with a publisher or via my own platforms. Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Ariel Author of the Offbeat Bride book, Ariel acts as the publisher of all the Offbeat Empire websites. She lives in Seattle with her son, and if she's not reading or writing books, chances are good that she's dancing or happy-crying. You can get to know her better on her Insta stories. PREVIOUS State of the Empire, 2018 NEXT Pros Before Bros: my self-funded publishing / art experiment Show/Hide comments [ 10 ] Looking forward to it. Thank you for sharing with us. 1 agrees Reply I hope to never need it to myself, but several friends are going through divorces and sometimes I don't know what to say. So I'm looking forward to your book, I don't think these kinds of books are only bought by people going through the same thing exactly. Happy writing! Reply I want to read it alllll. I would've happily read the messy memoir, and I'll happily read the new version, and I will happily buy the side ebook. I need more eloquent people to make sense of my life nonsense for me, haha. 9 agree Reply That agent was right, I would totally read that new version. Reply I totally agree, which is why I whole-heartedly took her advice. Reply Congrats to you for finding a new path for your book. I imagine it's really difficult to chop up something so personal in order to make it marketable. As an aside, though, I think it's shitty that "the market" can't appreciate strong writing about another human's individual experience without making it directly about the reader. Reply I hear what you're saying, but my own internal publisher is like… as far as human interest stories go, "40yo white lady being really sad about her divorce" is a pretty common narrative. Sure, this particular lady was also a wedding blogger, but even that angle's been covered before… I get why publishers would want the format to be something more practical. Reply Sounds awesome! I can’t wait to read it! And I am so glad that your content is going on Offbeat Home. Don’t tell anyone, but Ariel posts are my favorite. I also love your new look and singing 😀 2 agree Reply Wait, you’re not doing the fancy art book with bespoke jewelry anymore? I was looking forward to that. Reply Oh, I am 100% still doing that project! That's my third book, PROS BEFORE BROS: http://offbeatempire.com/pros-before-bros If you're interested in that project, definitely subscribe to the newsletter linked at the end of that post… I just sent out an update today! (Can I ask where you got the idea that I wasn't doing that project any more? I want to make sure I clean up any messaging somewhere that might be unclear, and chances are if you're confused… other folks are, too!) Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Add me to your new posts newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy.