We’re going to bring back our atrophied “noteworthy comment” category to share a comment that came in this week. This comment was deleted, and after you hear this bunny act it out, we think you’ll understand why:
As for the white dress thing-I don’t think anyone needs to get defensive over it. If you want that great, live your life. I do however find it very entertaining that women on a off-beat website would want to wear a white dress. Sorry but doing what 97% of society does is not considered off beat. And wearing eggshell or off white is sure as hell not off beat either. There is nothing wrong with wearing white, but just admit you are more traditional than you think and roll with it.
Offbeat Bride has spilled a LOT of ink over the years exploring the friction between offbeat vs traditional. Readers have obsessed over “am I offbeat enough?” since 2007. Your wedding is not a contest, Oh noes I think my wedding will be normal, we’re all special snowflakes, etc etc.
It boils down to this: we’re not into identity policing. No one gets to decide who’s allowed to call themselves “offbeat” any more than they get to decide who’s allowed to call themselves steampunk (oh, you’ve only got one pair of goggles?) or plus-size (oh, you’re only a size 14?) a lesbian (oh, you’ve only slept with three women? GIVE BACK YOUR LESBIAN CARD).
There’s nothing wrong with wearing white, but there IS something wrong with telling other people what they have to do to be considered offbeat.