My book, Offbeat Bride: Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides, is definitely more memoir than anything else — an issue that sticks in many a reviewer’s craw. This stupid book isn’t NEARLY as helpful as the website, reviewers have been known to write. And they’re not wrong: the book was written as a memoir/service hybrid, and the subtitle of the book adds to the confusion about what people are getting. (I brought this issue up with my book’s publisher when the 2nd edition came out. They poo-pooed making any changes.)
While the book may be all about me, me, me — with all the websites, I’ve been very VERY clear since the start that none of them are about me at all. Yes, my fingerprints are all over them, and yes, I share my stories in posts here and there — but none of the Empire blogs are focused on me (or any of the other editors for that matter), and that’s a very intentional editorial decision.
YES, blogging is a personal medium. YES, I want people’s personal stories. But if I’m planning my wedding, I don’t want to go to a wedding blog and see photoshoot after photoshoot of the blog’s author — I want material that’s going to help me plan my damn wedding! As a blogger myself, I know from first-hand experience that we really aren’t that interesting. I sit in front of a computer all day, typing things. Trust me: pictures of my readers are WAY more interesting than most pictures of me. (Possible exception: family Care Bear picture.)
But then it’s easy to swing too far the other way, with posts that are all “5 way to bla your bla without even blaing your bla bla” written by a nameless editor who could be writing for any service site. “7 bla blas you never expected to be bla” posts only get you so far, and then it all starts to feel like SEO fodder. First-person perspectives and stories are what the Empire is built on, so it’s not like I want to strip out the personality.
I think for me the big difference is building the bridge between the author’s experience and the reader’s take-away. “Here’s something I did” is boring; “Here’s what you can learn from my mistakes” is interesting. “Here’s how I did something awesome” is gloaty; “Here’s how you can do this awesome thing too” is interesting.
This is one of those editorial issues where there’s no easy rule. I think the goal is just to make the personal content feel relevant and interesting to people who don’t care about you. A first-time reader who’s never visited your site should be able to stumble across a personal post and have the same useful experience as a longtime reader. In other words, your readers shouldn’t HAVE to know you to enjoy your personal posts.