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Why blog commenter over-sharing is ultimately a publisher’s problem

Publishing websites dedicated to big life stuff means that we get a lot of blog comments that are extremely personal. I’m not even talking here about the Offbeat Bride Tribe, which is private for exactly this reason — I’m just talking about comments on the blog. Comments that are all out in the open for everyone to read. A few examples of the kinds of over-sharing comments we deal with…

Clean it up, shut it down: how we know it’s time to close comments on a post

On certain kinds of posts, my editors can get a serious work out keeping up with shitty comments. After doing this for so many years, I’m pretty good at knowing when a post is going to be controversial, and we make a point to schedule those posts for days when that site’s editor can be watching comments like a hawk.

Even so, when the amount of editor time expended removing crappy comments exceeds the number of constructive, respectful comments coming in, that’s when posts get down.

Vendor tips: how to get blacklisted from Offbeat Bride’s comments

I interact with dozens and dozens of amazing wedding vendors every day, and for the most part, it’s an amazing industry filled with inspired, independent, creative, and whip-smart people. Unfortunately, however, there are always a few small business owners who are still playing catch-up when it comes to blog commenting etiquette.

How I deal with flouncing

Ah, the the flounce. The term refers to the almost-comical way that frustrated online community members will stand up and yell, “I’M LEAVING! No really, don’t try to stop me! I AM LEAVING. I’m done here. I’m going! I’m never coming back! Did you hear me? I am done with this community! Are you listening? DONE!” Here’s how we deal with them on the Empire.