How to talk to (and about) your clients when their gender identities are complex

Gender identities are complex, and the words we use to talk about gender are constantly evolving. Whether or not you spend a lot of time in a gender-ambiguous world, as a business-owner, you need to know that it's important to be aware of the different ways people can gender identify, and that it's even more important to respect those identities. It's not always easy to discern someone's gender identity by sight, so here are three different ways I've gone about determining how my clients identify in a subtle, respectful way…


Best comments of the week: poop, pee, and identities vs. labels

Every week, I try to digitally herd the cats that are the Offbeat Empire's editors into gossiping with me about our favorite comments across all the Empire blogs. Here's this week's round-up of the comments that cracked us up and made us think, completely with long ramblings from me about identities vs. labels…

Offbeat Bride in Lavender Magazine

I recently did a Q&A about my book with Lavender Magazine, Minnesota's gay and lesbian glossy. I rambled about transgender weddings, lesbian weddings, and het weddings alike … you can…..