A different kind of viral post

This chart shows the number of hits Offbeat Mama has gotten per hour over the last 36 hours. By comparison, Offbeat Mama normally gets about 300 hits/hour and Offbeat Bride (our heavily-trafficked flagship site) gets about 1300/hour.
Over the years, we've had dozens of posts go viral across the Empire's blogs. Lesbian gamer weddings, unplugged weddings, Medieval tavern-themed gaming rooms, liberal bullying… we've seen lots of posts go viral, and they all have some common themes:

  • They go viral because they get picked up by a higher traffic website, and then ripple out to other websites
  • Comments typically turn contentious as new readers drive-by and nit-pick
  • Often there's something a bit controversial in the posts

Today, Offbeat Mama is having its highest traffic day since launching in 2009 because a post called I've started telling my daughters I'm beautiful has gone viral. But it's going viral in ways I've never seen before. If you like nerding out about this kind of thing, huddle up. Let's take a look at how this post is different…

No links from high traffic sites

85% of the traffic is from Facebook or Facebook Mobile.
As of yet, this post hasn't been picked up by any big websites. Its spread has been completely organic, and mostly via Facebook and Twitter. The post published yesterday around 11am, and immediately people started sharing it with their small pockets of followers. We're not talking big influencers with thousands of friends or followers — from what I can see, most of the people sharing the post on Twitter have on average only a couple hundred followers.

This post has gone viral mostly because moms are sharing it with other moms. Not because bloggers are broadcasting it, but because women who liked it are sharing it with other women. Amazing!

Despite no big hitters linking the post, the social media spread has been insane. It's being Liked on Facebook almost 20 times per minute. (It was up to 41,000 Facebook Likes 33 hours after publishing.) Here's a screenshot of Offbeat Mama's Chartbeat stats' social page, which is just this non-stop stream of tweets and Facebook shares:

19,100 site shares by 2pm today? Holy shit.

A hundred thousand hits, and no one's trolling

There's just a simple truth with viral posts: as the drive-by readers increase, the drive-by trolling also increases. Sometimes it's people trying to be assholes, other times it's people who get sick of seeing a post linked everywhere and decide that it's their personal responsibility to poke it full of holes, sometimes it's just people who don't know our (admittedly unique) commenting policies.

What's insane about this post is the total lack of shitty comments. I mean just… none. There was one incredibly sad comment, but for the most part, of the hundred thousand readers… exactly ZERO have chosen to be shitty. This is almost infathomable, especially on a parenting site like Offbeat Mama. I loves me some Offbeat Mama readers, but the site is known internally for being the most difficult Empire blog to moderate, with comments that run the gamut from mind-blowing medical over-shares to psychotic snaps to dogmatic brow-beating. And yet today? It's all beauty and love. This brings me to our next point…

There's nothing controversial about this post

Usually posts that get high traffic have something a tiny bit controversial in them, even if it's just "Can you believe they did that?!" On Offbeat Mama, the posts that have gone viral in the past have included one about being a responsible stoner parent, and another (that's since been unpublished) about a homeless family with a baby. The traffic spikes on those posts were sharp enough to cut, and Stephanie (Offbeat Mama's editor) and I would sit at our respective laptops biting our nails and feeling generally awful. Those spikes felt, on a certain level, like trainwreck traffic: Ermagerd, what have those offbeat freaks gotten into now?

By comparison, the post that's gone viral this week is just pure love. It's about respecting yourself as a way to model how you hope your children will respect themselves. It's been linked by everyone from Rolling Stone political editors to gentlechristianmothers.com. There's nothing controversial in the post, nothing to judge, no one to tut-tut-tut at.

Honestly, being a web publisher can start to kill your sense of humanity after a while. The cynical trainwreck traffic, the misanthropic comments, the never-ending complaints, the fact that the internet never sleeps. But today, right now, for just a moment… my faith in the internet is restored, because a lovely post about being kind to yourself has spread across the web and no one is being shitty about it. Even better, now I'm working with the post's author, Amanda, to try to get a book pitch together.

PS: If you want to dork out on some real-time stats as this traffic spike is happening, grab your popcorn and join me over on Chartbeat.


Update, November 15 11:30am PST

It just keeps going, and all of this is still mostly Facebook. The post is now up to 65,000 Facebook Likes and close to 200,000 visits:

Update, November 16 12:30pm PST

…and it's still going. Things are slowing down a bit, but hourly traffic is still at 10x Offbeat Mama's normal levels:

    • Yeah, I teared up reading this. Faith in internet back to full health!!

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  1. It's a very hard post to hate on :-) Even my icy little heart felt a tickle.

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    • Shh: don't give the trolls a challenge! ;)

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  2. I loved that article and was one of the ones who shared it on Facebook. I think the reason that there are no hater comments is because of how extremely well it is written and the ultimate Truth that she presented in her vulnerable explanation. I can only hope that this article keeps getting hits and comments, because it needs to be seen!!

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    • And you: did you notice that one of your posts is featured in the link list at the end? :)

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  3. I have to admit when I started reading this post my first thought was "Oh no – if another one went viral did it bring a host of shit-slingers with it?"

    But no! It's a turd-free zone! And it has every right to be because that post was AWESOME. It's like… like… a CHRISTMAS MIRACLE!

    (Yeah I went there. Yes, I know it's not even Thanksgiving yet. Yes, I am in league with the devil. And Neiman Marcus. But mostly the devil. )

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  4. It was an awesome post! Even brought together normally deuling groups on my Facebook post – can't beat rallying behind someone who is exposing her vulnerability on a insecurity everyone can relate to. (PS let us know what happens with the book pitch)

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  5. I have known the post's author for many years and she is the wisest momma. She always knew the secrets of being kind, and proud, and beautiful. I am so proud of her today and that people everywhere love her words. It's a wonderful message and I hope people keep right on sharing it. Go Amanda!!

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  6. Well, if this post and the reaction to it restored your faith in humanity a little bit, Ariel, I can only say that it is way overdue. Things I read on the Empire restore my faith in humanity on a regular basis (what does it say about me when that faith needs to be restored so often? Not sure, but it cannot be good!)

    The work you all do on the Empire and the communities you have created give me hope and happiness. I'd like to think on some level they feed your soul too!

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  7. Fascinating. It is a stunning article. And as soon as I saw the number of comments it was generating, I "dashed" over to offbeat empire to see if you had anything to say about it. Love this site Ariel. Thank you.

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  8. It helps that, not only is it a beautiful message, it is also incredibly well written.

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